I want to share something, some insight (perhaps), that I have witnessed a number of times, recently, while I’m out & about at the beach, at the pool, etc.
We would do well to remember that our first born (children) should not take the brunt or the blame for the episodes of the younger siblings. Example: If a younger sibling snatches a toy from the older, that is the initial behavior that needs to be addressed. Not that the older child should simply give up the toy in order to avoid the tantrum that will ensue. I am speaking to a generalization, I do realize this. I know there are exceptions.
It has been my experience, that in coaching my first born to his leadership potential, as I believe God calls him to be a leader, I have to demonstrate holding the younger siblings accountable to their own personal development, as well.
It takes the extra effort. It takes patience & perseverance. But it’s the right measure to take. So that we establish a trustworthy rule in our homes. That we will investigate the volume manipulation that occurs.
Otherwise, I cannot expect to effectively empower my first born to love & lead his brothers by example.
